1. Didn't have strong boundaries
2. Try to love unconditionally rather than applying natural consequences
3. I believed my love could change a man who didn't want to change
4. I held on to his idealized false self even after he showed me his true self repeatedly
5. I didn't pay attention to early red flags
6. I took on far too much of the responsibility to make the marriage work
7. I stayed when I should have left.